Are relationships ever easy? I read about ways to make a relationship "healthier" or "deeper" and ways to improve communication but, I never (OK - almost never) see a relationship that is easy. I suppose it is because we human beings are responsible for mistakes, miscalculations and misunderstandings on a daily basis. To expect relationships not to reflect those mistakes is to disconnect our relationships from our humanity (and our reality). We are not always honest with ourselves or with others. We are strongly influenced, even manipulated, by less than conscious drives, urges and addictions. The best of us are constantly working to reduce those influences, change the patterns and better reflect whatever individual ideal we ascribe to. Many others don't have a clue where to begin or even that there is problem. If we look at EVERY relationship as a mirror into our own souls, we can use each one to help identify our own issues, patterns and addictions. Then we can begin to work on accepting those parts of ourselves.
Randall
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14 years ago
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Ah, yes, relationships. It's true, I think, that relationships are not as easy as we think they should be. Many times, I've thought that the idea of a loving, committed relationship is just a cruel joke. Maybe we just make more of relationships than we should. I don't know. It is complicated. Communication is so important for success of a relationship and unfortunately, most of us have difficulty in that area. We are products of what type of experience we had in childhood regarding communication. I believe,if shame and criticism were a big part of our " communication", it has made honesty and trust difficult in adult communications.Our self esteem drives our communication skills. So much has to do with respect for oneself and others. Respect covers alot of territory, but without it, human interaction is unsatisfactory. Forget mistakes, misunderstandings, and miscalculations. It starts at that " gut level", second chakra involving honoring one another. It is important to honor oneself and to convey to the other person..." I honor you and you are valuable". You are mirroring your soul... if you honor yourself and others, communication becomes more real. And with that, I believe, relationships can become more real. Maybe not any easier, but more authentic and satisfying.
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